The he in question might be a spouse who is criticizing you, a child who is arguing with you, or a friend who is bailing on you.
Whoever it is, the complaint is always the same: I’m unhappy because he’s doing such and such.
In a world of I-deserve-a-great-life and I-can-solve-any-problem-if-I-set-my-mind-to-it, it’s easy to buy into the philosophy that not only do others need to change so we can be happy, but that it’s actually possible to change other people.
When I first started truth journaling, I believed both of those lies. It was a major revelation to me the day I realized I couldn’t change everything I didn’t like in life.
You see, I had been operating under the false impression that if I could just come up with the right argument, the people in my life would change and start doing things my way.
So I spent 15 years trying to come up with the right argument.
I never found it.
Instead, God blessed me by not giving me what I wanted. And because I didn’t get what I wanted, I turned to Him instead.
He more than made up for the trials. He was everything I ever wanted and more. He still is.
Trials are always worth it if we turn to God for help. He gives us character, the fruit of the spirit, and a closer walk with Him.
They’re rarely worth it if we don’t turn to Him. Trials without God lead to bitterness, immaturity, negative emotions, unhealthy coping techniques, and distance in our relationship with Him.
Trials aren’t neutral. They can be a blessing or a curse. It all depends on who or what we turn to for help.
That’s why I love to renew my mind. It’s an intimate way to talk through my problems with God. He draws me close and shows me another way to look at life.
And when I see life from His perspective, it always looks good.
Even when it’s not.
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P.S. If you want to try truth journaling, here are a few posts on the subject: Truth Journaling, Truth Journaling: the List Method, The Embarrassment of Blogging, and If He Loved Me, He Wouldn’t Say Those Things.