08 When You Feel Like a Failure: 10 Questions to Ask

When You Feel Like a Failure 10 Questions to AskDo you ever feel like a complete and total failure? Do you ever feel like a mild loser?

Either way, this podcast will help. We’ll go through the self-condemnation questions and insecurity Bible verses from I Deserve a Donut with our own failures in mind.

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Here are the questions we’ll be discussing (these are in the book and the android app, but they’re not in the iPhone app as I wrote them after publishing the app):

Insecurity: Self-Condemnation Questions

  1. Why do you think you’re a failure (terrible person, bad Christian, etc.)?
  2. Does that really make you a failure (terrible person/bad Christian, etc.)? Why or why not? *
  3. Whose standards are you using to determine whether or not you’re acceptable?
  4. What does God think of those standards?
  5. How does God feel about you? (See insecurity verses for ideas.)
  6. God is not a condemning perfectionist parent. He’s a loving Father who says, “Come to me, my beloved, and let me help.” In what areas do you need help?
  7. Take some time to ask Him to help you with those areas.
  8. Is there anything you need to accept?
  9. Is there anything God wants you to do?
  10. What can you thank God for in this situation?

* If you’re having a hard time answering this question, look through the insecurity verses and think about grace. If you’re going the bad Christian route, think about the life of David and Romans 3:23.

Possible things you’ll need to accept: that you’ll never be as good as you want to be, that others will see your imperfections (just as you see their imperfections), and that you’ll fail at times. Everyone does—it’s part of the human condition, so you might as well get used to it!

Possible things you’ll need to confess: condemning someone God loves (you!), giving yourself permission to give up because you feel like a failure, and making “success” more important than God wants you to make it.

Click on the following link for the insecurity Bible verses: Insecurity Bible Verses

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  1. Floyd says

    This is a good reminder for me to not try and take the role of God… Which is exactly what we do when we become the judge and make up the rules to impose on ourselves and those around us.

  2. says

    Good stuff Barb! I think one of the problems is worrying about what “others” think. We wonder if they think we failed, or think less of us because of a perceived failure. I love the way you consistently point us to take control of our thoughts and replace them with truth! Blessings!

    • says

      That’s a good point, Deb. It’s easy to see ourselves through the perceived eyes of others. And the funny thing is that they’re usually not as hard on us as we are on ourselves!

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