This surprises me. Because I had grown up to believe that I would have the perfect romance, marry the perfect man, and then skip on to the perfect marriage with my perfect husband who would meet my every need.
After all, isn’t that what happened in all the movies?
The truth is, I had unrealistic expectations for marriage. Here’s the truth: there is no perfect marriage!
We are all married to imperfect people.
And we ourselves have so many imperfections that we couldn’t have a perfect marriage, even if we tried.
(Hint: that includes all of us except for those who have only been dating for 2 months or married for two weeks.)
Rather than give my own tips, I’ve joined forces with my friend Ngina Otiende who blogs about marriage at her blog, Intentional Today, and has also published a great new book on marriage called Blues to Bliss: Creating Your Happily Ever After in the Early Years .
If you want to give yourself (or a loved one) a Valentine’s Day present, Ngina’s book would be a great gift. It’s full of wise, practical, and biblical advice with lots of personal examples. I wish I had had her book when I first got married.
Here is a link to it: Blues to Bliss: Creating Your Happily Ever After in the Early Years .
Four Tips for Improving Your Marriage
In this podcast we’ll be talking about four things you can do (note: I didn’t say, “make your spouse do!”) to not just tolerate your imperfect marriage, but to thrive in it! To listen on iTunes: click here
Here are the tips we’ll be talking about:
- Get rid of unrealistic expectations.
- Work on changing yourself, not your spouse.
- Develop an attitude of thanksgiving.
- Learn to rely on God to get your emotional needs met.
Also, here is a great video by Francis Chan on marriage. If I remember right, it also has good content for single people: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ihRmM0aVADU
If you’d like to work on going to God to get your emotional needs met, here is a book full of conversation starters that will help you with that: The Renewing of the Mind Project.
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