Do you ever get the urge to break your boundaries – but feel too guilty to come right out and do it? What we usually do in that situation, is try to find some way to justify our actions. Something to make us feel less guilty about giving in. See if any of these thoughts […]
I Want My Habit, and I Want It Now.
Have you ever seen a little kid throw a tantrum at a store? She whines. She cries. She screams. She wants her toy, and she wants it now. I’m afraid we’re a little like that kid sometimes. We whine about our day. We cry about our problems. We scream because we’re not getting our way. […]
Questions that will Help You Break Free from Your Bad Habits
For the last two years I’ve been writing questions: questions to help people start habits, questions to help people stop habits, and questions to help people break free from their negative emotions. The questions are designed to attack specific lies, so all you need to do is find out what lie you’re believing and then […]
Breaking a Habit: Entitlement Questions
I deserve it. I should be able to do what I want, when I want. I’m good in every other area of my life. I can let this one go. What do you feel like doing? Why do you feel like you have a right to do this? Do you think God agrees with your […]
Secondary Boundaries
Do you ever find yourself constantly breaking your boundaries? When that happens to me – and it always does when I’m trying to break a habit – I know I need some secondary boundaries. Secondary boundaries are boundaries you put in place to make it easier to follow your primary boundaries. Here’s how you come up […]
Preparation Truth: When “Just Say No” Isn’t Enough
In Ephesians 6:12 Paul tells us our struggle isn’t against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, powers, world forces of this darkness, and the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places. That’s a lot of opposition. I’m not sure if it’s possible to work on a breaking-the-habit project without entering into spiritual warfare. […]
If It Feels Good Do It . . . Or Not
Living in a culture that incessantly preaches the message if it feels good do it, it’s hard to grow up embracing boundaries. We think the good life is a life without boundaries . . . but is it? Just think of your own bad habit: what happens when you do what you want, when you […]
How to Set Boundaries
If you want to break a bad habit, the first thing you need to do is establish some boundaries. The boundaries should tell you two things: How often can you do your habit? How much of your habit can you do? How Often If your habit’s a sin, the answer to the first question is […]
Is Breaking a Habit Really Worth the Struggle?
Breaking bad habits and sins is simple in some ways, but complicated and painful in others. It’s simple because it’s a basic process: replace lies with truth. It’s complicated because sometimes you have to search through layers and layers of lies to get to the full truth. And it’s heart wrenching because you come face-to-face […]
Overcoming Bad Habits: The Funny Version
Just saw this video on Michael Hyatt’s blog. Bob Newhart has a much funnier take on overcoming bad habits than I do!