Do you ever find yourself giving too much advice? I do. It’s one of those things I’ve wanted to change, but haven’t been able to.
So when I had to choose a renewing of the mind project to test out my new book, The Renewing of the Mind Project, I decided to do a “stop giving so much advice” project.
I wrote the questions below to renew my mind with and they’ve really been helping.
If you struggle with giving too much advice, use these questions to renew your mind before you enter into situations where you think you’ll be tempted to give advice.
Since I have three adult kids coming home for Christmas, I’ll be using these questions a lot in the next week or two!
- Why do you want to give this person advice?
- What kind of advice do you think you need to give him?
- Do you think this person already knows what you want to tell him?
- Yes: If so, why do you think he hasn’t acted on it?
- No: If not, how essential is it for him to have this advice on a scale of 1 to 10? (i.e. How bad will the consequences be on a scale of 1 to 10 if he doesn’t take it?)
- Have you ever given this person advice before? (If not, skip to #8.)
- How many times have you given this exact same advice?
- How did he respond to your advice the last time you gave it?
- How do you think he’ll respond this time, and why do you think he’ll respond that way?
- Do you think this person needs advice or something else? If something else, what does he need?
- On a scale of 1 to 10 what do you think the odds are that your advice will affect his actions? Why do you feel that way?
- What is your best chance for influencing his behavior?
- Is there anything you need to accept?
- How do you think God want you to handle this situation?
- Why do you think He wants you to handle it that way?