Do you ever make things harder than they need to be because you want things to be perfect?
Do you ever agonize over decisions because you want that perfect outcome?
If so, these questions and Bible verses will help you let go of your perfectionism, finish your projects, make your decisions, and start enjoying life as an imperfect person!
Ironically, I’ve been working on “perfecting” these questions for the last several years.
I am currently at our local bakery, eating a chocolate mocha tart, and rejoicing over the fact that I think I’ve finally come up with the “perfect” set of perfectionism questions.
Maybe even perfect enough to help me let go and get the book out that I’ve been working on for awhile now!
In the spirit of breaking free from perfectionism, I have whipped this blog post off–including the making of the pinterest pin–in less than 45 minutes, and I’m going to post it now even though I just read it and thought that introduction wasn’t all that great!
If you’re struggling with trying to make a project perfect, have a conversation with God using these questions and Bible verses. They’ll help!
Perfectionism Questions and Bible Verses
- What are you trying to do perfectly?
- What would perfection look like in this case? (Give a thorough description.)
- Are you capable of making that happen? (Be realistic.)
- Are you simply trying to excel (a good thing), or do you feel like you have to be perfect?
- Why do you feel like you have to be perfect?
- Does God think you have to be perfect? Why or why not?
- How is your perfectionism affecting the following:
- Your project or habit
- Your relationships with God
- Your relationship with others
- Your health
- Your personal well-being
- Is your pursuit of perfectionism worth the sacrifice? Why or why not?
- What would it look like to pursue this goal as a non-perfectionist?
- Would you like to make those changes? Why or why not?
Possible things you’ll need to accept: that you’ll never be perfect and neither will your projects, but since life is about God—not perfect projects—this isn’t really a big deal.
Possible things you’ll need to confess: that you’re making something more important than God wants you to make it, that you’re seeing yourself through the culture’s eyes rather than God’s eyes, that you’re hurting others in your quest for perfection, and that you don’t have time to do the things God wants you to do because you’re too busy trying to be perfect.
Matthew 11:28-30 Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.
Luke 10:41-42 But the Lord answered and said to her, “Martha, Martha, you are worried and bothered about so many things; but only one thing is necessary, for Mary has chosen the good part, which shall not be taken away from her.”
John 8:10-11 Straightening up, Jesus said to her, “Woman, where are they? Did no one condemn you?” She said, “No one, Lord.” And Jesus said, “I do not condemn you, either. Go. From now on sin no more.”
2 Corinthians 12:9 And He has said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness.” Most gladly, therefore, I will rather boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me.
Hebrews 4:15-16 For we do not have a high priest who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses, but One who has been tempted in all things as we are, yet without sin. Therefore let us draw near with confidence to the throne of grace, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.
Note: These questions will be included in my new book which will have starting a habit (or accomplishing a goal) questions, stopping a habit questions, and the emotions questions from I Deserve a Donut. I hope to put the book out in late December or early January.