Personal Growth Bible Study

Do you ever feel like you want to grow as a Christian, but you don’t see it happening?

The other day I was reading John 12:23-26 and was struck by the message in verse 24: If the seed doesn’t die, it remains alone and never bears fruit.

It made me think of the little seeds of basil, parsley, and cilantro I had just planted in my garden. In order to be transformed into beautiful and useful plants, the seeds have to die.

If I refuse to put them in the ground and cover them with dirt, they won’t bear fruit.

The Fruit of the Spirit

This is true for us as well: If we want the fruit of the Spirit in our lives (love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self control), we need to walk in the Spirit and die to our own desires and have-to-haves (Galatians 5:13-25).

If we refuse to die, we’ll be like those little seeds I just planted, only a tiny little shadow of what we could become if we allow God to do anything with us.

Just think of your own renewing of the mind project, if you’re working on one. Is there anything you need to die to in order to see the fruit of the Spirit? Here are a few examples:

Things We Made Need to Die To If We Want to Grow

• If I refuse to die to my desire to do what I want when I want, I won’t get the fruit of self-control, which is what I need if I’m doing a weight loss project or a breaking a habit project.
• If I refuse to die to my “right” to have everyone treat me the way I think they should treat me, I’ll miss out on the fruits of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, and gentleness, which is what I need if I’m working on an annoyance/anger or insecurity project. 
• If I refuse to die to my desire to finish my to-do list at all costs, I’ll miss out on the fruit of joy, peace, and possibly love, depending on what’s getting in the way of a completed list. Plus I’ll have a hard time letting go of stress and worry.
• If I refuse to die to my desire to have a comfortable life, avoid decisions, and do whatever I feel like doing, I’ll miss out on the fruits of self-control and faithfulness, which is what I need if I’m working on a goal or a procrastination project.

The truth is, if we want to grow and mature as Christians, we need to die—just like those little seeds I planted.

As I was thinking about this, I thought it would be interesting to compare gardening with personal growth. This is what I came up with:

I’ve also written a study below that I’ve been using when I don’t feel like dying to whatever God is calling me to die to. If you’re struggling with the same thing, I hope this helps!

Personal Growth Study

1. Think of your own life. In what area(s) of your life is God calling you to die?
2. Why do you think He wants you to die in that area of your life?
3. What would dying in this area look like? In other words, what you have to be willing to do (or give up)?
4. When you think of doing that (or giving that up), what are you most afraid of?
5. Read Philippians 2:3-8 and John 12:23-26. Why do you think God asks us to die to ourselves?
6. When we die to ourselves, we receive two different types of fruit: the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23) and the fruit of the impact we can have on the lives of others. Who will you serve by dying to yourself? (Note: It’s a given that you’ll serve God, but who else in your life would be benefited by you dying to yourself?)
7. Read Galatians 5:22-23 again. Which of the fruit of the Spirit will you receive through dying to yourself in this area of your life? Circle any that apply: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness, and/or self-control.
8. When you think of everything you’ll gain by dying to yourself, is it worth the sacrifice?
9. Spend some time meditating on Galatians 5:13-25, Philippians 2:3-8, and John 12:23-26. (I came up with this study through meditating on John 12:23-26!)

For other studies on personal growth, see the Free Bible Study tab and the book, The Renewing of the Mind Project.