There is no more powerful influence in a child’s life than that of her parents. But what if those parents are negative, critical, and broken people? How can we overcome the detrimental messages and negative body image that this can cause us to have, even into adulthood? That’s our subject on today’s episode of the Taste for Truth Podcast.
Things We Discussed on the Podcast
- How the beliefs and messages we receive as children follow us into adulthood
- The lasting effects of parents who have their own health and negative body image problems
- How we have to change our mindset before our behaviors or habits will change
- Pushing back against society’s wrong notion that only skinny people are beautiful
- The truth that there is “beauty at every weight”
- Trusting that God can work all things together for good
Lies We Discussed on the Podcast
- It’s inevitable that I’ll break my boundaries.
- Why even try?
- You’re just going to break your boundaries anyway.
Resources Mentioned on the Podcast
- I Deserve a Donut App
- Going Gray by Anne Kreamer (This is a secular book but it does have some helpful things on body image as it relates to aging in particular.)
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Hi Kate…this podcast really touched a nerve with me. You sound so sad.
I am almost 70 years old and it is only in the past 3 years that I have begun to be set free from my generational /familiar patterns. You are already ahead of the game by recognizing what you didn’t get from your parents and what you needed.
You will have a chance to change these patterns with the next generation. Even though you didn’t have it modeled for you, you can model it for your own children and even the college students you mentor.
A place to start would be to write down 40 “I am” statements. I am generous, I am kind, I am joyful, etc. When I first did this, I started with the fruit of the spirit. I didn’t think that I could think of 40. In the end, I think I thought of 80. Read them aloud first thing in the morning and before you go to bed for 40 days. Be intentional. This is a good place to start loving yourself and seeing yourself the way God does.
Praying for you, Kate. Don’t give up! God is working, He’s still working…
God bless you on your journey.
Thank you, Ky! Your words are so encouraging. We are pregnant (first child, second pregnancy) and I am already filled with emotions–not only about our previous miscarriage, but about how I will raise this child. I love your idea about the 40 statements and will have to give it a try.
Praying for you and your pregnancy. God bless you, Kate!
Barb Raveling says
That’s so great that you’re being set free from those generational sins, Ky. My small group is getting ready to do a family genogram and discuss it which I think will be interesting. It’s part of Pete Scazzero’s curriculum for churches. I just finished reading his book, Emotionally Healthy Discipleship, and really liked it. Thanks for commenting and adding your suggestion, Ky!
Excellent podcast. The book Going Gray is very good. Read it years ago… haven’t colored my hair yet and I’m 66. Trying to age gracefully.
I grew up with a gorgeous (adopted) mother who always reminded me that I didn’t look like her. Took a long time to recover from that and am so thankful that I am my own person as an adult. Thank you for sharing your heart.
Barb Raveling says
I really liked the book too, Tonya. Thanks for sharing your own experience. That must have been hard!