My mornings with God have been wonderful, and I’m enjoying the “sweet fellowship” that you mention in your book. However, it seems by mid afternoon and evening my thoughts are not on God at all!
I’m breaking boundaries, I’m in lazy mode, entitlement mode, and indulging mode, and it seems that it happens so fast….like there is no separation between thought and action. I can look back with 20/20 hindsight and see what’s happened, but I feel powerless (on auto-pilot) in the moment. How do I catch myself so I am not caught off guard?
Maybe just recognizing that it’s happening regularly is a good first step. I almost want to set the alarm on my phone! :-/ Do you have anything on your website that addresses this? I so want to believe that I am not the only one who deals with this!
Because almost all of us struggle with this same issue, whether it’s with eating or some other area of our lives, I thought I’d answer it in a blog post. I decided to do it today because I’m in this exact frame of mind right now and I need help! Here are 6 steps to breaking out of the afternoon and evening boundary breaking session.
How to Stop the Evening Boundary Breaking Session
1. Go to God throughout the day as soon as you experience a negative emotion.
This is by far the best way to help with this problem. I started the day with a poor night’s sleep and then nothing seemed to go right during the day.
I had an okay quiet time this morning, but not a great one, and then I haven’t gone to God again for help and it’s now 4:36. All of those negative emotions have built up throughout the day to the point where I feel like my life is a wreck. This makes me want to break boundaries!
I wouldn’t be feeling like that if I’d taken the time to go to God for help throughout the day, throwing off those lies that were discouraging me and putting on the truth that would set me free. I should go to God for help right now, but I’m feeling so depressed I’m having a hard time making myself go.
The timer idea is a good one. I have a friend who sets her timer for 7 times a day to remind herself to renew her mind. If I had done that today, I wouldn’t be having troubles now.
2. Don’t beat yourself up if you do break your boundaries.
I did break my food boundaries just now, but only a very little bit. In the olden days I would have broken them like crazy.
That’s because in the olden days, I would have said, “You already broke your boundaries once; might as well break them again,” then gone into “You’re such a hopeless failure” mode, followed by “You’ll never get over this,” and “You’ll be fat for the rest of your life,” which of course always made me want to eat in despair.
The only reason I’m not doing that now is because I’ve truth journaled those lies so many times I no longer believe them.
I do tend to go into that mode with writing (You’re such a hopeless failure, etc), but at least I don’t break food boundaries. And even though I’m feeling that way today, I’m still finishing out my writing time by writing this blog post!
3. Do something physically active that you actually enjoy.
After writing the last point, I thought, How can I get out of this? I remembered my daughter showing me the “Just dance” videos on YouTube over Christmas and thought, I know, I’ll try that. So I did a search for YMCA Just Dance and found this video.
I clicked on the guy with the sombrero and started dancing. After only three minutes of dancing in the kitchen, trying to follow that sombrero guy’s moves, I was feeling about 75% more cheerful. There are all kinds of these videos on YouTube and if you like to dance, they’re fun to try.
If doing something physically active doesn’t work for you, try calling a friend, organizing something, starting a crafts project, or getting out of the house–anything to help you break out of that lazy, indulgent, entitled state.
5. Go back to God again as soon as you can make yourself do it.
I hate it when I can’t make myself go back to God until the end of the day, but sometimes those days just happen. If you can get a little momentum going with one of those last suggestions, it may be easier to get back to God and work through all of the lies that are putting you into a bad mood in the first place.
6. Remember that tomorrow is another day.
Lamentations 3:22-23 tells us, “The Lord’s lovingkindnesses indeed never cease, for His compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is Your faithfulness.”
This is true! God isn’t going to reject me just because I had a bad day. He loves me in my as-is condition. Great is His faithfulness! The other truth is that life won’t feel like this every day.
I remember when the kids were young and I had a bad day of homeschooling. It always seemed like it was soon followed by a good day. That will be true for us too with our habits. If we keep pursuing God, keep taking off those lies and putting on the truth, eventually we will change! We just need to trust in God.
If you’d like help with pursuing God in the area of weight loss, keep reading.
New Taste for Truth Weight Loss Bible Study Starting 3/7/2016
Beginning next Monday, Jules Lane will be leading a Taste for Truth online Bible study. If you’d like to join in, click here for details.
There isn’t a lot of time to order books, but you should be able to read the first few lessons for free by going to Amazon and clicking on the “look inside” link by the picture of the Taste for Truth book.
If You Received 2 Emails Today
For some reason I had an email glitch today. I’ll try to figure out what happened so you shouldn’t need to do anything about it. My new email sender is Mail Chimp, which is the one that just sent an excerpt rather than the whole post. I’ll be deleting the mailing list from WordPress, which is the one that sent the whole post, so this should be the only time you receive two posts.
When are you most likely to break your boundaries? Do you have any tips for stopping the mid-afternoon or evening boundary breaking session? Share them in the comments!