12 Learning to Adjust to a Different Life Than You’re Used To

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Interview with Ngina Otiende

Today I’m excited to have my friend Ngina Otiende on The Christ Habits Podcast.

Ngina blogs about the early years of marriage at IntentionalToday.com.

I would encourage you to drop over to her blog as she has lots of great advice for both single people and married people!

In today’s podcast we’ll be talking about:

  • Working on your goals and dreams, even when it’s difficult.
  • Learning how to adjust to a different life than you’re used to living.
  • Learning to trust God in the midst of uncertainty.
  • Ngina also shares her story of moving to the States from Kenya three years ago. If you’d like to know more about her journey, click here. 

As I listened again to the podcast while preparing to put it on the blog, I was struck by how perfect Ngina’s advice on going through a transition was for me personally, as we just started the empty nest life a few weeks ago.

Thankfully, Ngina also sent over five tips for those of us who are going through a transition, in addition to what she says on the podcast. Here are Ngina’s tips:

5 Tips for Those Going Through a Transition from Ngina Otienda

Learning to Adjust to a Different Life Than You're Used to Living1) Don’t focus on the past. It will drain you and take your focus from the moment

2) Take it one day at a time. You don’t have to figure out the rest of your life now. The only way not to worry about the future is to know what God says about it. Look for and memorize verses of Scriptures that deal with fear, anxiety or any other thing you might be struggling with. Positive thoughts won’t carry you through, God’s Word will.

3) Apply yourself to what God is telling you to do now. Sometimes it will not look big or significant, nothing remotely looking like your big dream or aspiration. But just be obedient. When we are faithful with little, He opens up the next step. Don’t expect to move to the next level, if you are not being faithful with His current instructions.

4) You might have to cut out negative voices, even for a season – people or situations that conflict with God’s current instruction to you. Obviously be wise, be open and honest but realize that God does not mandate that everyone will understand the new thing He’s doing in your life. Don’t carry everyone’s concerns and burdens and discouragement.

5) Most important, intentionally invest in your relationship with God. Spend time in prayer, His word. You can’t slack off on your relationship during transition (or any other time!). You have to be close to God because He’s all you got, your source of strength and your future.

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Online Freedom from Emotional Eating Class Begins Soon!

book coverHi Everyone, Just wanted to let you know that Karon Ruiz,  will facilitate an online Freedom From Emotional Eating Bible study beginning September 22nd through November 14th. September 15th (this Monday!) will launch the introduction and getting to know you week.  Class sign-ups end on September 21st.

Seven other ladies will assist Karon in hosting this class, each facilitating one week. This is a private Facebook group and you would need to send Karon Ruiz a friends request and a message letting her know you want to sign up.

It’s a free class, but participants will need to purchase Freedom From Emotional Eating either the workbook or Kindle. Since there is writing to do each day, the workbook might be easier to use.

If you don’t think you’ll be able to get your book by September 21st, click here to access the introduction and first chapter.

If I have any other announcements for classes, I’ll post them on the Weight Loss Resources and Classes tab up at the top of the page, so check there if you’re interested in a class. I’ll try to post those on my I Deserve a Donut Facebook page as well. Hope you’re all enjoying the fall!

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11 Help for your Marriage with Heidi Byslma

VLUU L200  / Samsung L200Today I have the privilege of sharing a wonderful interview about marriage with my friend Heidi Bylsma. I hope it’s as much of a blessing to you as it is to me.

This is an encouraging interview whether  your marriage could use just a little tweaking or a major overhaul.

To listen on iTunes: click here (Note: For some reason the last two podcasts haven’t shown up in iTunes.  You can still get them by subscribing to the podcast in iTunes. Right now, only the subscribers are getting the latest episodes. To subscribe, click on the link above and then click on the little blue button that says “view in iTunes” and then click on subscribe.)

Renewing of the Mind Tools

Help for Your MarriageHeidi offers several suggestions of ways you can renew your mind if you’re struggling in your marriage.

Click on the links below to find the resources she mentioned in the blog.

Creating a God List: http://heidibylsma.com/step-6/

Praise Fest and What is it? http://heidibylsma.com/praise-fest/

Truth Cards: http://www.thinwithin.org/truth-cards-what-they-are/

I Deserve a Donut Questions: Available in paperback or Kindle, Android app, or iPhone app.

Truth Journaling: http://barbraveling.com/2014/03/09/how-to-truth-journal/

If you’d like to reach Heidi, here are some links for her: 

Email address: heidibylsma@gmail.com

Speaking: http://heidibylsma.com/speaking/

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Worry vs. Concern: 8 Characteristics of Each

Worry vs. Concern 8 Characteristics of EachToday I’m happy to have a guest post by a blogger friend, Caleb Suko. Caleb  just published a helpful book on worry called, What If: How to Kill Worry and Anxiety Before They Kill You. This is a slightly modified excerpt from his book.

Sometimes worry can be difficult to identify in our life. This is because we often feel like worry is something good! We believe that if we love our child, then we should worry about them, we think that worry over a loved one’s safety is justified and even proof of our love for that person. Continue reading

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10 How to Break Free from Idolatry

How to Break Free from IdolatryIn today’s podcast we’ll talk about 6 steps to breaking free from idolatry.

This podcast is based on a post I wrote last year, although I’ve changed the steps just a bit. To see that post and the study that goes with it, click here.

To listen to the post in iTunes, click here.

For the idolatry quiz, click here.

Other resources:

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09 5 Reasons to Keep Working on Breaking That Habit

5 Reasons You Should Keep Working on Breaking That HabitDo you ever get tired of working on breaking that habit? I know I do.

In today’s podcast we’ll talk about 5 reasons to keep working on those habits when it would be so much easier to give up.

For more help with breaking habits, check out the breaking a habit tab at the top of this blog.

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08 When You Feel Like a Failure: 10 Questions to Ask

When You Feel Like a Failure 10 Questions to AskDo you ever feel like a complete and total failure? Do you ever feel like a mild loser?

Either way, this podcast will help. We’ll go through the self-condemnation questions and insecurity Bible verses from I Deserve a Donut with our own failures in mind.

To listen on iTunes: click here

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07 Breaking Free from the Idol of Skinny With Christina Smith

IMG_0291Interview with Christina Smith

Today I’m excited to share an interview with my friend Christina.

We’ll be talking about how to follow lifelong eating boundaries, how to break free from the idol of skinny, and how Facebook sometimes gets in the way of that.

Christina shares her journey and how God has helped her along the way. She also gives practical suggestions for change.

Breaking Free From the Idol of SkinnyTo subscribe or listen on iTunes: click here

Other Resources:

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06 How to Break a Habit

How to Break a HabitDo you ever feel like you can’t break that habit that has been plaguing you all your life?

In today’s podcast we’ll talk about three steps you can take if you want to break your habit.

To listen on iTunes: click here

To listen on Stitcher: click here

If you’d like more info on this subject click on the following links:

  1. How to Set Boundaries
  2. Secondary Boundaries
  3. How to Set Boundaries To Break Free From Idolatry
  4. The Renewing of the Mind

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Interviewees Needed!

TheChristianHabits_albumart_1 (4)One of the things I love about Bible studies is hearing what God is doing in the lives of the people in the study. In addition to just enjoying each other, we get to build each other up and learn from each other.

I get to hear what God is teaching the people in the study, how they handle various problems, and what they’re struggling with, which is often the the same thing I’m struggling with. Continue reading

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05 Breaking Habits: An Attitude That Keeps Us Stuck

Breaking Habits An Attitude That Keeps Us StuckIn this episode of the Christian Habits Podcast, we’ll talk about an attitude that keeps us from breaking our habits. 

If you’d like help with breaking a habit, check out the breaking a habit tab at the top of this blog. Click here to see the questions on today’s podcast.

To listen on iTunes: click here

To listen on Stitcher: click here

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04 6 Tips for People Pleasers


6 Tips for People Pleasers- The Christian Habits PodcastDo you ever feel like you have to say yes when someone asks you to do something? Do often find yourself saying yes and then regretting it later? Does it bother you when people are unhappy with you?

If so, you may be a people pleaser.

In this podcast, we’ll talk about 6 different things you can do if you want to break the habit of people pleasing. We’ll also renew our minds with the people pleasing questions from I Deserve a Donut.

If you’d like to subscribe to the podcast or listen to it on iTunes, click here, and then click “View on iTunes.” (It may not be there right away as I am having technical difficulties, which also explains why I have two play buttons rather than one!)

People Pleasing Questions

  1. Why do you want to make this person happy?
  2. What will make him happy?
  3. Are you able to make that happen?
  4. Will that really make him happy? Explain.
  5. Are you:
    1. Interfering with what God wants to do in this person’s life by always trying to make him happy? Explain.
    2. Tempted to do something God doesn’t want you to do (or not do something God wants you to do) just so you can make this person happy? Explain.
    3. Remembering that only God can fill this person up and make him happy?
    4. Neglecting your responsibilities (as a parent, for example) just to avoid making this person mad?
  6. How do you think God wants you to handle this situation?
  7. Why do you think He wants you to handle it that way?
  8. What would you need to sacrifice, give up, or risk to do what God wants you to do?
  9. What will you gain if you do what God wants you to do?
  10. Is there anything you need to accept?
  11. What can you thank God for in this situation?

Question: Are you a people pleaser? Do you have any tips for us?

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