To get the discussion going, we’d ask the teenagers, “What would you do if you woke up one day, looked at your spouse, and thought, ‘I don’t love this person anymore’?”
The most common answer was, “I guess we’d just get a divorce.”
This was disconcerting because the truth is, if you’re married, there’s a good chance that one day you’ll look at your spouse and think, I don’t like you very much.
The question is, what are you going to do when that happens?
That depends on your level of commitment.
How Do You Define Commitment?
The word commitment has different meanings for different people. For some it means, “I’ll commit to you as long as life is good. I’m in this for what I can get out of it.”
For others it means, “I’ll commit to staying with you, but I’m not willing to put any effort into the relationship.”
And for still others, it means, “I will stay with you through thick and thin, and I will do everything in my power to love you well, even if it means I have to sacrifice to do it.”
This is a question we have to ask in our relationships with God as well: What will we do when we wake up one morning and realize, “I don’t feel close to God”?
The answer to that question will depend on our level of commitment and our theology.
The Theology of Idolatry
For some reason we think, “Of course, it’s wrong to commit adultery, but everyone struggles with idolatry—and since everyone struggles with idolatry, it’s okay.”
All you have to do is go to Blue Letter Bible and do a search for idol, idols, and idolatry to realize, idolatry is not okay with God.
Just as a spouse would expect us to get rid of a lover, God expects us to get rid of our idols. The question is, What is our level of commitment?
The third step in breaking free from idolatry is to make a commitment to: a) work on your relationship with God and b) get rid of your idols.
One of the ways to keep a marriage alive is to spend time doing things together. The same is true in a relationship with God. Here are three activities you could do with Him:
- Read Psalm 77:7-14. Spend some time remembering and thanking Him for the things He has done for you in the past.
- Read Luke 5:16 and 6:12, and plan a day long retreat with God.
- Do an “around-the-living-room” prayer session. Spend 3-5 minutes in each chair or spot on the couch and talk to God about a different subject every time you move to a new spot. Spend the first three minutes praising Him.
P.S. For the rest of the summer, I’ll be posting more sporadically as I’m trying to get both my Donut questions and 30 Day Weight Loss Bible Study ready for publishing–plus I want to get out there and enjoy the summer!
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Question:Do you have any suggestions of things to do on a retreat with God or examples of retreats you’ve taken?