Do you ever bite off more than you can chew? That’s what I did last week when I said I would post an entry today to go along with the questions I posted Friday.
After camping for five days, I was faced this morning with the fact that I had no post ready to go.
It was stressing me out a bit so I did the people pleasing questions in I Deserve a Donut (And Other Lies That Make You Eat). Here’s how it went:
Insecurity: People Pleasing Questions
What is this person expecting you to do?
Post at 5 in the morning my time. (Although in reality, most people don’t even know what day I post much less what time of day I post!)
Are you able to do what this person wants you to do? Why or why not?
No. But I could drop everything and post right now.
Why do you feel like you need to live up to her expectations?
I am such a people pleaser by nature, that I need this question to slap me upside the head and say, Barb, do you really have to do what people expect you to do all the time?
My first thought is, Because they expect me to – I always post on Mondays and Wednesdays. My second thought is, Because Michael Hyatt says I have to (even though of course he is not here at my house telling me I have to). My final thought (ouch) is: Because I want them to think I’m reliable.
Do you think it’s possible to love this person well if you’re always trying to live up to her expectations? Why or why not?
This question is on the app, but it doesn’t really apply here so I skip it.
How would you handle this situation if you didn’t have to worry about disappointing her?
I would wait and write a post after my quiet time. (I wrote this journal entry before my quiet time because I couldn’t focus in my quiet time. I often renew my mind before I start my quiet time if I’m stressed out in some way before hand. This helps me better focus on the Word and my time with God.)
How do you think God wants you to handle this situation?
This of course is the crucial question and the one that really convicted me. Here’s how I answered it: I think he wants me to have my quiet time first and then write a short post (this is it, by the way – what could be shorter than transferring your journal entry to the computer?) so I can do everything else I need to do today.
Why do you think He wants you to handle it that way?
Because it’s more important to spend time with God than to blog and it’s more important to unpack from camping and get the house caught up today than to spend a lot of time writing.
Is there anything you need to give up to do what God wants you to do?
Yes. Doing what I’m supposed to do to have a successful blog.
Is there anything you need to accept?
Yes. That I don’t have a post ready and that it will have to come out late today.
After I finished renewing my mind, I was able to have my quiet time in peace and also transfer this entry from my journal to the computer in peace. The more often I renew my mind, the sooner I’ll see life and ministry from God’s perspective first time around. But even before that happens – I get the benefit of peace in the here and now.