What if I told you you could get rid of 90% of your anger if you just added 15 words to your vocabulary? Would you be all excited, madly scanning the rest of the blog to find those 15 words? Or would you be skeptical? If we were honest, most ... [ Read More ]
How to Stop Being Annoyed: 12 Questions to Ask
Do you have a person in your life who regularly drives you crazy? Or a person who keeps hurting you and doesn't seem open to change? Here are some questions and Bible verses that will help you let go of those angry feelings and love when it's ... [ Read More ]
I Want My Habit, and I Want It Now.
Have you ever seen a little kid throw a tantrum at a store? She whines. She cries. She screams. She wants her toy, and she wants it now. I’m afraid we’re a little like that kid sometimes. We whine about our day. We cry about our problems. We ... [ Read More ]
Questions that will Help You Break Free from Your Bad Habits
For the last two years I've been writing questions: questions to help people start habits, questions to help people stop habits, and questions to help people break free from their negative emotions. The questions are designed to attack specific ... [ Read More ]
Breaking a Habit: Entitlement Questions
I deserve it. I should be able to do what I want, when I want. I’m good in every other area of my life. I can let this one go. What do you feel like doing? Why do you feel like you have a right to do this? Do you think God agrees with ... [ Read More ]
Secondary Boundaries
Do you ever find yourself constantly breaking your boundaries? When that happens to me - and it always does when I'm trying to break a habit - I know I need some secondary boundaries. Secondary boundaries are boundaries you put in place to make ... [ Read More ]
Preparation Truth: When “Just Say No” Isn’t Enough
In Ephesians 6:12 Paul tells us our struggle isn’t against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, powers, world forces of this darkness, and the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places. That’s a lot of opposition. I’m not sure if ... [ Read More ]
How to Use Preparation Truth to Break (or Start) Your Habit
When our lab was a puppy, we always made him sit while we poured his food into the dish. He was able to control himself when he sat several feet away from his dish, but if he was right next to his food, the temptation was too great—he had to eat ... [ Read More ]
If It Feels Good Do It . . . Or Not
Living in a culture that incessantly preaches the message if it feels good do it, it’s hard to grow up embracing boundaries. We think the good life is a life without boundaries . . . but is it? Just think of your own bad habit: what happens when ... [ Read More ]
How to Set Boundaries
If you want to break a bad habit, the first thing you need to do is establish some boundaries. The boundaries should tell you two things: How often can you do your habit? How much of your habit can you do? How Often If your habit’s a sin, ... [ Read More ]