For the last two years I’ve been writing questions: questions to help people start habits, questions to help people stop habits, and questions to help people break free from their negative emotions. The questions are designed to attack specific lies, so all you need to do is find out what lie you’re believing and then […]
I deserve it. I should be able to do what I want, when I want. I’m good in every other area of my life. I can let this one go. What do you feel like doing? Why do you feel like you have a right to do this? Do you think God agrees with your […]
Do you ever find yourself constantly breaking your boundaries? When that happens to me – and it always does when I’m trying to break a habit – I know I need some secondary boundaries. Secondary boundaries are boundaries you put in place to make it easier to follow your primary boundaries. Here’s how you come up […]
In Ephesians 6:12 Paul tells us our struggle isn’t against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, powers, world forces of this darkness, and the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places. That’s a lot of opposition. I’m not sure if it’s possible to work on a breaking-a-habit project without entering into spiritual warfare. […]
When our lab was a puppy, we always made him sit while we poured his food into the dish. He was able to control himself when he sat several feet away from his dish, but if he was right next to his food, the temptation was too great—he had to eat it.
Living in a culture that incessantly preaches the message if it feels good do it, it’s hard to grow up embracing boundaries. We think the good life is a life without boundaries . . . but is it? Just think of your own bad habit: what happens when you do what you want, when you […]
If you want to break a bad habit, the first thing you need to do is establish some boundaries. The boundaries should tell you two things: How often can you do your habit? How much of your habit can you do? How Often If your habit’s a sin, the answer to the first question is […]
Breaking bad habits and sins is simple in some ways, but complicated and painful in others. It’s simple because it’s a basic process: replace lies with truth. It’s complicated because sometimes you have to search through layers and layers of lies to get to the full truth. And it’s heart wrenching because you come face-to-face […]
Just saw this video on Michael Hyatt’s blog. Bob Newhart has a much funnier take on overcoming bad habits than I do!
If you were to ask a friend, “How do I get rid of a bad habit?” you probably wouldn’t hear the answer Replace lies with truth. Yet that’s what the Bible tells us to do if we want to be transformed. So here’s the question: does it have to be biblical truth? Or does practical truth […]